sunny_monday

Wait. Stop. TEST-SOLVERS??? How do I get that job??

My friend died last year also due to complications from Agent Orange. Thank you for raising awareness.

The real question: Yanny or laurel?

One guy described it as "Get to 70%." If it is 70% good/done, it is done. No more edits, no more tweaks, no more thinking. People barely notice the additional 30% effort you put in anyway. They WILL notice that you reliably deliver, however. So, same idea. I find myself hyper focusing on stupid things and the 70% rule helps me break out of it (sometimes.)

To your comment, I try to tell myself while beating myself up about something, that we never appreciate the things we CAN do and HAVE accomplished. There are things for me that are easy and effortless and I pay 0 attention to them. I ONLY notice the failures and mistakes and the "should have's". Im trying to train myself to see myself better, to acknowledge when things DID go right. When a decision WAS correct. We are all literally blind to our own accomplishments.

What would fix this? Feedback. Feedback from friends, family, coworkers, etc. Ive had people tell me unprompted: "Wow, X comes so easily for you." I never knew that. I never thought about it. I never knew people struggled with X. And the FIRST thing I do, when I hear something positive like this, is I dismiss it. Either the person is crazy, or stupid, or they are overexaggerating. The knee-jerk reaction is to NOT give myself credit for an accomplishment.

So, we need to give ourselves feedback, we need to ask for it (super hard to do), but the easiest thing is to start GIVING it: "Wow, I really admire the way you handled that situation." or "Ive noticed you are really good at problem-solving. You probably dont even notice you have this skill yourself." or "Thanks so much for completing this. Your work is always so thorough and as a result everything flows so much more easily." I think once we start giving more feedback, we will get more feedback.